When Someone Says I Want to Die

A middle-aged woman was served divorce papers after her husband told her he was leaving her for another woman. A college student could not live up to his parents' expectations and believed he was a complete failure and disappointment. A teen boy was bullied relentlessly and could not stop the abuse. An elderly man lost his wife after over fifty years of marriage and believed he has nothing left to live for. A young girl believed she was worthless after years of being verbally and sexually abused by her father. A man's self-esteem was shattered and he felt he lost everything when his wife left him and he lost his job.

The stories of misfortune, pain and struggling abound. No one is immune to life's difficulties and injustices. As we see in the scenarios above, life can be hard. And as a result, people can become seriously depressed. They battle problems they do not always believe they can overcome. They want to escape. They want to numb the pain. Sometimes you hear them say I want to die. Other times, the words are left unspoken yet clearly seen in their self-destruction. Anger turns on the self with the goal to punish, harm, kill, or destroy.

What does it mean when someone says or implies I want to die? Do they really want their lives to end? Or is it the pain that they want to end? Oftentimes, it is the heaviness of their pain that outweighs their ability and resources to cope in healthy ways. They get stuck and do not know how to move forward with hope. They get overwhelmed and want a way of escape so they say I want to die, thinking that somehow death can offer them some relief. Not everyone who says or thinks I want to die takes steps to end his or her life. Some habitually meditate on the thought as a way of coping, indulging in the pain, or venting their anger.

When we hear the words I want to die, may we also hear what else the person is saying such as: I have lost hope; this pain is overwhelming; I need help; I don't know what to do; I wish this pain would end; I can't go on like this anymore; I hate myself; I am depressed.

Do you know that by the end of this day about 88 people will have died by suicide (according to the U.S. Suicide Statistics). A vast majority of them will have suffered from untreated depression or another mental health condition. Depression can be triggered by one or several negative life conditions which can lead to suicide, suicidal thoughts, or attempts. Yet, depression is very treatable. Getting help for depression can avert the negative consequences of suicidal thoughts such as I want to die. These thoughts are always a warning sign and should be taken seriously. If you or someone you know is depressed, get help immediately. Desperate, hopeless thoughts like I want to die can be replaced with: I know life can be tough, but I can and will overcome the challenges I face. I know others feel the way I do and I am not alone. I believe there are people who care and want to help. I choose to believe in myself. God is for me and gives me strength. I want to live. I have a lot to give, to do, and to fulfill. Love will never fail me. I am loved and I love myself, God and others. I will not quit or ever give up. I am born to win. I will to live and not die.

Please take a moment to watch the video and listen to Would You Still Do It. This very moving, passionate suicide song for suicide prevention is a reminder that although you may have felt or said I want to die, there is hope no matter how hopeless it seems; there is healing no matter how much it hurts; there are people who really do care and want to help. *If you or someone you know is depressed, suicidal, or engaged in self-destructive behaviors, please get help today.

When Someone Says - I Want to Die - Written by Krystal Kuehn from New Day Counseling

Copyright © 2011 New Day Counseling, MI. StopSuicideSong. All Rights Reserved.

Krystal Kuehn, MA, LPC, LLP, NCC is a psychotherapist, author, teacher & musician. She is the co-founder of New Day Counseling and websites StopSuicideSong and BeHappy4Life, an award-winning, self-help and inspirational site where you can find hundreds of free resources, insights & inspiration.

* Please take a moment to watch the video and listen to the song, Would You Still Do It. This very moving, passionate suicide song for suicide prevention is a reminder that although you may have felt or said I want to die, there is hope no matter how hopeless it seems; there is healing no matter how much it hurts; there are people who really do care and want to help. *If you or someone you know is depressed, suicidal, or engaged in self-destructive behaviors, please get help today.

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As someone they say management part 2 must anger: the four main reactions are we probably get

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Anger management part 4: What, if someone finds their anger but will take no action?

Although this situation is not quite as favourable, half of the year was already at least here won the battle; is that the person has admitted that they anger and this is a problem. The difficulty here is actually getting them more help to solve to find this. "It may be that the person has admitted that anger a problem caused it and the other people around them, but the situation say that it will not happen again, or simply admits that they suffer from rage, but do not have to any help 'shrugs off' ', that things will be good". Unfortunately, this is rarely the case is and remains a problem is - although human nature means that it is tempting to do so - the problem only expected to be even worse, with the solution is more difficult as time goes by.

PERSEVERE and try and MAKE THE FINAL PUSH - now that the person has at least acknowledged that they have an anger management problem, even though they have no plans, something to do this; It would give up defeat at this stage - it admission be, especially if they are someone we care to. No matter how difficult it is, so that they take further measures you try, and to this end, these proposals after.

'A very personal HEART TO HEART TALK' and point out THE advantages of THE PERSON take to manage their anger and THE steps SITUATION IF they fail to do this have – should be a shock tactic used as really this situation, although it is important to get the balance here. Try and have a deep discussion about the anger and its causes. Would be a good time to do this if the two of you are alone, after the children to bed or after dinner gone. It is not advisable, to have someone else in the room – as they can be biased towards a person. If they are biased on the person with rage, for instance, the chances that our requirements for the management of anger not be be taken seriously or if she are with us, anger is likely suffering page previously in force can contact behavior that we have in common with other people against them and the protectionist tendencies above described. With only two people, a really private deep discussion can take place hopefully. The person can also open and the causes of anger and after this can even agree further discuss.

If they acknowledge that they have problems anger, but still no sense to take other measures, tactful to point out that in the current situation ' we at a crossroads with take two paths "." Emphasize the two different scenarios: when they take measures to manage their anger or what could happen if they do so. The latter can shock them in further measures to take, although very tactful. Yes, by all means try and even scare shock of the person, but there is a very fine balance here asked. If we scare them by very serious threats too much; for example, that we you can rely the person feel that we don't care enough about them to help and are shoved them into a corner - a move that could be very counter-productive. On the other hand, without a slight push it can be little incentive for those who take the necessary measures to manage their anger.

BE SYMPATHETIC and the PERSON note fury - for many people having a PROBLEM, also admit anger having a problem - regardless of whether they are ready, they are for this action - is a great success and an addition that should be confirmed by us. About this time that person is expected to be feeling very upset, low morale have and may be an overwhelming feeling of guilt. It is now important, so that she took care of special, to feel and point out that we recommend that they because we worry about them get a feel, anger management. Also when discussing the anger and cause, make sure that to add them on the positive characteristics of their personality. Yes, they can suffer from rage, but you can also have a very good listener or have a very compassionate person, if they are not annoyed. In this way, the conversation is not just full of negative comments and information provided may be more detailed and truthful.

BATTING steps to address this anger - take could above, if the person is still not convinced in further steps relating to address their anger, make a few suggestions to them. Try in this case, not fear-mongering use (especially if this approach already used was and did not work), as the person not the more action and give-up completely persuades. Tell a friend about very small approaches can take - make sure that there are no obligations on the first - and they are the point that we are there, help them to feel alone do not emphasize. Small steps can often be good first and the anger-management process more approachable and realistic.

Try to make an example of a PERSON, ANGER MANAGEMENT has the new FROM - this is one of the most frequent comments, I hear that 'This anger management for me is work'. The first thing I say is that you can not determine if not for you, if you have tried it in the first place. It is like to say that we have no specific type of food as, without depending on it cost.

The best advice I can give here is, which show person a real example of someone who has benefited from anger management. These case studies are all over the Internet or you can an anger-management experts like me to talk to the person directly and give examples of people, from anger management and the way that life not only itself has improved this, have benefited, but contact the people around them - whether these are family, friends or work colleagues.

The next two parts of this article will now make proposals to ward off anger, if the person does not accept that first and foremost a problem the rage they have. In the next part of this article - part 5 – I now do, are suggestions for help, a person who does not recognise, that they an anger problem but reluctantly advice, however, to take action.

Martin Hogg is an anger management specialist and founder of the citizens of coaching CIC, a charitable institution based in Birmingham, UK http://www.citizencoaching.com/
We offer a unique, tailor-made anger-management approach through live workshops, one to one support and through online and home study. Free get Martin's first steps in anger management at http://www.myangercoach.co.uk/anger-management-online

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How to make someone feel important in 5 easy steps

Knowing how important this particular person give the feeling to make you can someone the attention and recognition that they deserve.

Not all people are born with the gift of words or grand gestures. If you are one of them, the following steps will show how someone to make you feel important:

Step 1: Active listening and respect.

If this person is, they look in the eye and focus on the topic at hand. Try to repeat the bits of what was said, take appropriate action and give a little opinion. Often people only want to be heard and to know that someone cares enough to listen to really.

Step 2: Remind you details.

This does not necessarily mean that all information that makes sense but should remember this person, only the small.

You will learn the feeling like someone important by to find out about her family, friends, work, aims to make hobbies, favorite activities and other interests. Find out, what makes them smile.

You can use this information to make that person feel special and loved, especially when they feel down.

Step 3: Call the person by name.

Nothing sounds sweeter than a person's own name. Calling people by their names makes remarkable and important feel them.

If you are close enough with this person to know their nicknames, use instead. It implies shared a special bond and closeness between the two of you.

Step 4: Enter personalized tokens or cards.

You have to buy any gifts to your appreciation for someone. A great way to feel someone important form to customize the gifts you give by make or you are prepared.

Try this person favorite dish cooking or baking, you this person favorite pastries. Knowing, what kind of music that they prefer, you can make some of them also a playlist.

No matter how simple may be the gesture, if that person can see how much trouble you inserted, it will be greatly appreciated.

Step 5: Give compliments.

There is always something good about a person of a compliment you on. It can be, as this person is looking for, their personality, their performance or even their choice in music. Type never fails genuine compliments, feel special and important a person.

Even more effective is say nice things about someone when they are not around. This gives the perception of honesty, if the message of that person had reached by a third party.

The best place as it is to make someone important the feeling that you express your appreciation in your own small way.

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