OUR BELIEFS
Beliefs are developed over the course of our lives and determine our destinies. Beliefs formed during our formative years tend to be the strongest and most persistent. The more emotion we attach to an experience, the more likely it is to form a belief. This emotion gets internalized and gets taken into the future in both our conscious and unconscious mind. Since we put more emotion into negative experiences, they often become our strongest beliefs and are most resistant to change. Experiences can be internalized on three different levels, emotional, cognitive and experiential. When all three are at work, the internalization of the resulting belief becomes profound. The emotions that attach to the event influence the meaning we give to the experience. This meaning underpins the beliefs which influence our behavior patterns that usually repeat over and over again in our lives. These behavior patterns can be positive or negative. An unwanted negative pattern can only be changed by changing our thoughts.
THE PROCESS OF CHANGE
The process of meaningful change includes the following:
1. Awareness of the unwanted behavior patterns, habits and attitudes.
2. Understanding how the patterns were derived and how they manifest in our lives.
3. Taking responsibility for the beliefs along with the conclusions and decisions that have resulted.
4. Understanding the "pay off" we get from holding onto the belief.
5. Identifying the emotional triggers and limiting decisions.
6. Learning how to release the beliefs. For this to happen we need new words, thoughts, associations, decisions, choices and directed attention.
7. Visualization and imagination are important tools to create your new reality. Just as memory replays your past, imagination pre plays your future. Your imagination is your reality in the subconscious.
8. Learning alternative associations to short circuit the patterns and disengage from the emotion. Keeping a journal, controlling your inner critic and being accountable are all important parts of change.
9. If you can make the desired change about others instead of just yourself, the process becomes easier and more powerful.
In addition to the above, we all have an emotional thermostat that wants to return us to the comfort of our preset status quo based on our old beliefs. This thermostat is built on years of reinforcement and must be reset in this process. No wonder change is a challenge for us all.
The good news is that when our conscious beliefs match our unconscious beliefs, there is no stopping us. When this happens it is said that we are living life from the inside out. Put another way, we are living a congruent life. It is this congruency that allows us to fulfill our purpose, achieve our goals and be our very best.
Have a payoff for us. Understanding the payoff is crucial to changing unwanted beliefs. It usually defines why we can't change despite a conscious desire to do so. Understanding the payoff is the first key to unlocking why we are stuck. What we invest real emotion in gets internalized and is taken into the future. Beliefs are formed from learning something on three different levels: emotional, cognitive and experiential. When all three of these processes are activated, beliefs get internalized
king the blueprint to change.
What we invest real emotion in gets internalized and is taken into the future. Beliefs are formed from learning something on three different levels: emotional, cognitive and experiential. When all three of these processes are activated, beliefs get internalized.
Think of a Joe, a single man who spots a beautiful woman across a crowded room. When she looks his way she smiles and he returns the smile. He would love to meet her. It might even change his life. Instead he looks away and sits there frozen in his chair, incapable of taking action. Why? The conscious belief that he could take action, walk over to her, engage her in conversation and begin a relationship, is overwhelmed by his internal belief that it won't happen, what's the use, she will reject you in the end and you will look foolish to everyone here. Obviously, this scenario has played out before. By not even trying the pain of rejection is avoided and the ego is protected. This is the payoff.
I submit that you are in the same situation with your business as Joe was in that room. Perhaps you have been burned before. Invested in new ideas and techniques that sounded good but got you nowhere. If anything I have said has struck a chord with you, you owe it to yourself to take me up on my offer and join the Persuasion Formula while it is still available. If you want to change, I will not rest until you do and it becomes your daily habit. I will be your accountability partner in this process and will drag you across the finish line even if you are kicking and screaming. That is what is different about this program and why it will work for you.
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Jon Buchman, D.M.D.
Dr. Jon Buchman has been a dentist and consultant for over 30 years. He has owned and operated 4 successful practices in Southern California and has trained numerous clients on how to successfully implement the Acceptance Formula in their practices.
Dr. Buchman is a graduate of Tufts University School of Dental Medicine and Boston City Hospital Oral Surgery Department. He is a skilled and dedicated teacher and enjoys helping dentists take their practice to the next level.
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