Have you suffered a setback recently? It is still haunting you? You wondered, why the setbacks are sometimes so painful?
We are creatures of success. It establishes us. It has us naturally comes. Our brain wired so that, if we have a clear set (and I my crystal clear) objective, our brain will do what it takes to achieve this goal, for us. That is the case, why it is that we sometimes suffer a setback?
Why we do not and a setback suffered is a different conversation between us. I would like to write about today is what to do (and what not to do) if we suffer setbacks in our lives.
Let me with you brutally to be honest.
If we suffer set-backs, the most immediate feeling is one of anger. This anger has it roots in the fact that we creatures are the success. If we perceive us as fails because of a setback, we are actively against our nature to be successful. Finally, I hope that you agree with that it will fail not in our nature. It is in our nature to be successful. If we can be successfully executed against our nature, arises our anger. Anger in itself is not something bad or something to worry about. It is something like constructive anger it reinforces our adrenaline and pushes us harder and more (if you know how to use anger to your advantage).
Anger becomes destructive, if we do not know how you can manage it.
One thing I have learned to manage anger is that we it somewhere to channel. If we design deliberately does not draw it our anger will find an own channel (and it's not nice). The direct and normal way, that our anger even to channels, it directly to us and we do, by even guilt. We begin to think that we are hopeless on things and if it happens often enough, we are starting to look at ourselves as losers and failures. We begin to think that we are the ones that caused the setback.
One who follow zerstörerischsten is our anger (on us) to beat us. I beat up (literally) ever. Sometimes can be so serious, that I would beat my head against the wall or even my own fist use my anger against me.
If we do not beat us up, another Canal, which is to direct our anger against someone. In most cases, this is a poor soul, the the brunt of the anger is someone close to us. You look at your favourite and questions you, 'they were the channel for my anger when I suffer a setback?' It hurts when we realize that they have been. So, now is the time, begin to learn how not to do.
Now I don't have to tell you that you beat up itself is not a strategy that leads to success. In fact, there is no growth. There are no learning indeed and probably it will happen over and over again. I have a lot of ways to handle things if we suffer a setback and one of the ways that I here is part is finding a channel for your anger and one which is the simplest channel anger it discovered.
To express, it can sometimes just by someone say ' I 'be made happen angry at what straight." I find that even the simple terms my anger constructively can go a long way to the channel. Other options includes write it or even say it according to me.
What to do, whatever you choose is way you express the goal here and confirm that upset you are. Many people set up anger be a bad thing. It is only if I stop viewing anger as a "bad" feeling that I was able to express it. You just accept that you feel certain emotions and not, judge emotions as good or bad. Emotions are neither good or bad. You are just something that you experience.
If you begin to channel your anger constructively start feeling peaceful. And you don't hit themselves (or others) and more.
Setbacks are an important aspect of the growth and success. Without setbacks we don't really know how far we can go. The most successful people in the world are successful, not because they learned to avoid such setbacks. Instead, they learn how to recover from it.
It is a skill that may be able to master any case.
Right channel of your anger and stop you Spank. If you learn how to properly channel the rage, setbacks is a learning experience and be the cause of many findings as well much of your Wachstum.Es is to be a beautiful day, when you realize that the setbacks probably were the best, that happened to you.
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Reza Ali is author, speaker, seminar leader and coach, who is in Kuala Lumpur Malaysia. Through his workshops, articles, seminars shall talk and his take on coaching programme Reza change and how we change can use to achieve everything we want in life.
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