How can I get my emotions could slow down you questions? And more importantly would be the purpose? Emotions are a gift that we have, which allow us really experience of life in all it fullness. Naturally slow down and enjoy the feeling of happiness, if you see an old friend, feel of the excitement when planning a vacation, has the feeling of accomplishment in the see a long-awaited goal to fruition come to the obvious benefits.
What is the advantage to slow down and the negative emotions feel? That seems crazy! Why in the world, I would want to slow down the feeling of the rejection of a job I don't get, I feel the pain of a broken relationship or I feel the anger about what someone did to me I feel? How could that possibly be advantageous? My mentor, David Essel, taught me a principle that I use with my clients and it is that "what we only diving grow." If you fear race through these feelings of guilt, shame, embarrassment, grief, anger, frustration, disappointment, or any other negative emotions you can think you are they immerse yourself and find that they resurface at another unfavourable time. But miss more opportunity. What occasion could possibly be?
If you are to feel, to slow down and let these emotions they now treat the possibility, and releases. If you do not deal with them when you return it under the carpet when you "put on the big boy pants" and they ignore are just will find greater magical... you! It is a time after you feel your pain, if you are looking for the positive see how we assume responsibility for a situation and even can do differently next time a plan to things. But you can skip does not have this important first step. I love acronyms and I came up with one to help remember the process of slowing down. I hope that it will help you also!
S. - sit with the emotions
L. - feel let even these
O. - one by one
W. - write you by release
You are feeling angry about an argument you had with your spouse? Forget not only about it. Sit with him. Ask yourself, "I feel what exactly right now?" Can I call the emotion? Anger? Fear? Rejection? "Frustration?" Make a list. After you have done that, a note, "I feel angry because..." and write what ever comes to mind. Do that with every emotion. If a minor upset it is, see, that you only again to write and it will let up. If they anger, which for weeks, months or years sunk been is, give him time. You may find that you need to about the same thing over and over to write, you feel to lift it. But be assured, a time when you write are not long about it and the pain there, will come. You can even to himself, "That's why I write about this as stupid,?" tell and laugh. Then, you know that your freedom is come.
You may think this seems nonsensical, but it works. This little exercise has huge rewards. It is of fundamental importance in the version of negative emotions. Let not the opposition thought "This is not for me" tempt you not to do. Try it and see for. Start with something small to test the waters and see how this process can work. Enter an email to yourself and it in a folder called "Thoughts"-file. There must be no traditional journal. Once you through the process of writing your feelings are way to you share are convinced that this technique can you your emotions in a safe and non-fiction environment handle, where processing and even discovery are the rewards for your efforts.
April O'Leary is a certified life coach who teaches women how you take better care of themselves. An at-home mom is 3 girl for 8 years, and also a working mother, April one understands the challenges of family life and the needs of busy schedule. She also learned that, at the top of the priority list not selfish, it is necessary, is happiness and satisfaction in life. Learn more about the April visit their website at http://apriloleary.com/ and get your free audio download of personal power seminar.
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